What would we do without love songs? You want to get the romance going in you, just listen to a good love song. But, and I can almost hear you say – O’ he’s going to spoil it all – always follow this little maxim, enjoy and revel in the melody, but be wary of the lyrics. Why? Because nothing can be more unrealistic than the words of a love song. That’s right, nothing.
Driving along the other day I was embraced by clouds of romance (doesn’t make for safe driving) while listening to a song on the radio. Suddenly, that spoilsport in me, my rational side, reared up in protest, “Hey! Just listen to those words. Pretty obsessive don’t you think..” They went like this:
In love with you, No one but you, Can’t live without you, I just need to be with you, You are the only one I care for, I’ll give you all you need, You are for me my destiny
Wow! Makes you want to run for cover. Clinging stuff don’t you think? Imagine being someone’s destiny – heavy, heavy burden. Imagine someone not being able to live without you? It would make me do one of those crazy pole marathons. Only I’d sit up there forever, or at least until the person was no longer around. Can any one person really give you all you need?
Of course, it’s just a love song, but say what you like, our concepts of love and commitment are often shaped by songs like these. No wonder when that little word “commitment” announces itself, many duck out the back door.
So, when it comes to love songs and the romance they breath in to us, lets revel and dream in the melodies, and lets give some slack here, let the words take us places, and when we’ve savoured these places, quickly get out of them, they’re just not real. Is that being unromantic? No! It’s just plain old common sense.
Happy listening and happy romance.