No doubt, as many say, distance has this great knack of being able to drop droplets of wisdom in to a situation, enabling us to see with greater clarity and insight before engaging closely again. It seems closeness and distance are two sides of the same coin.
No where is this more pronounced than in our relationships with one another. Who of us don’t long for the kind of intimacy where we are seen and embraced, yet are also free to create our own space in between. Too much distance, and you have indifference and separation; too much closeness, and you have smothering and suffocation. To allow any one of these dimensions to become fixed or frozen in one position or another, causes us to miss out on life.
Again, the sea for me provides a great parable. The waves kiss and touch the shore, then draw back in to space only to come and touch again in that ancient rhythm and dance of the tides.
I think part of living well has everything to do with discerning and understanding this wonderful interflow between closeness and distance. You can always recognise those who do. They are people in their own right, not afraid of intimacy, always secure in distance, and like the wind, can’t be manipulated. Good people to know.