I had the experience recently of listening to someone who proceeded to tell us in no uncertain terms what he believed to be right and what he believed to be wrong in life. I admired his conviction but not his imperialistic demeanour.
Listening to him, I remembered how I was once made aware of some words by Martin Israel that stopped me in my tracks. He said: “When I start to tell you what is good and what is bad, and what you should do and what you shouldn’t do, I immediately fill you with my own prejudices.”
I’ve never forgotten those words. They’ve become a potent antidote to the slightest desire in me to want to stand up and pontificate. Let’s face it, a lot of what we seek to pass on to others is too often filled with misinformation and personal prejudice, or am I perhaps being a little too harsh here?