Yesterday I read an online article in a well known newspaper of a conflict in a relationship that led to rather serious consequences. It brought again to mind the tragedy of a relationship where the one person is held captive in the expectations of the other.
Not only is such captivity a form of emotional control and imprisonment, but it robs the other of his or her inalienable right to the free unfolding of their own true identity. It raises again the crucial issue of the space between people in relationship being just as important as the needed closeness.
Rainer Maria Rilke has a beautiful way of describing this space. He says: “Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest human beings infinite distances continue, a wonderful living side by side can grow, if they succeed in loving the distance between them which makes it possible for each to see the other whole against the sky.” You can’t put it better than that.