A Lonely Woman

Thandi belongs to our community. She has three children and a husband who got tired of her and went off with someone else, leaving her with no support. As a teacher she has worked hard and raised her children on her own, at times under the most difficult conditions. Through immense courage she has become a strong and independent woman.

Herein lays the tragedy of her loneliness. She is not allowed to have any contact with her three sisters and any of her friends, this by order of their husbands, the reason being that she may sow seeds of greater independence and freedom in them. The male psyche can be so infantile at times and so weak in its so called strength.

Thandi may be lonely, but she is her own person expressing with dignity her own identity. Perhaps, hard as it may seem, her husband did her a favour by walking out. The beauty is she knows this to be true.


About Don

I love life. Sometimes it makes sense, other times not. Discerning its underlying patterns and beauty always provides great reward and meaning and is a passion I ineptly follow. I feel deeply attached to nature and love the sea with its distinct moods and colour and find walking along its beaches wonderfully inspiring. Writing, sketching and photography is a sheer joy for me and the blog is one of the places I am able to express these pursuits.
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27 Responses to A Lonely Woman

  1. Such a blinkered outlook from the men – such courage from Thandi!


  2. Dan Antion says:

    There are many examples of men who stifle the independence of the women in their lives in all places and societies. It’s good to read about someone showing the will and ability to triumph.


  3. Mary says:

    She has a knowing soul that will guide her well as life presents other challenges during her lifetime.


  4. Don, I am amazed by her courage and strength and saddened that she can not visit with her sisters… ๐Ÿ™‚
    Diana xo


  5. nrhatch says:

    When I ran a domestic violence program in New Jersey, we dealt with women cut off from family and friends by insecure abusive men.

    We did our best to set them FREE.


  6. I salute Thandi for her courage and independence. My own sister was likewise left bya very controlling husband. She has refound her artistic talents and is very happy. Her six children,now grown,have also found their own paths.
    If only Thandi could have her sisters’ love too. I send her love and respect ๐Ÿ™‚


  7. tomsimard says:

    It’s so difficult being cut off from those you love. And in this case so senseless. But as is so often the case in life, few of us are dealt the hand we deserve and the best we can is to show strength and courage. She sounds like a remarkable person.


  8. ptero9 says:

    Thanks for defending her here with your voice Don!
    Blessings to Thandi for her courage.


  9. Val Boyko says:

    Remarkable courage (heart) against the given norm (fear). She is a remarkable role model to other women and especially daughters everywhere! If it is possible, let her know how inspiring she is ๐Ÿ™‚
    Thank you for sharing her story and her spirit with us.
    Val x


  10. ladyfi says:

    What a sad and moving story.


  11. This is very sad, Don. Thandi is definitely better off without her slug of a husband, but her brothers-in-law need a good smack up the side of their heads. What a mean and isolating thing to do to their wives as well as their sister-in-law. I just don’t understand them, but I’m cheering for Thandi to triumph!


  12. Hudson Howl says:

    I have been living amongst mountains for a week. Dreaming of climbing all to the peaks. Thandi is on top of her’s looking down.


    • Don says:

      That’s right Calvin, I agree with you. She certainly is. You must have had a wonderful time. I can’t imagine doing anything better. There’s something majestic and life-giving about mountains. Hope you feel refreshed and uplifted.


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